The author of the article is Lana Yakoby
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“True love is not a hide and seek game: in true love, both lovers seek each other.”
There is a misconception that couples relationships can not be recovered from the crisis!!! ⠀
Its true, sometimes partners come to the point when they feel its no future for their couple … they feel like they stock and running around the circle more and more getting sucked into the abyss of misunderstanding and they wanna break up! ⠀
Is there a way to find a solution to this problem?⠀
One of the options is seeking of help of the professional who can guide the couple to finding a resolution of the conflict and help building the communication between the partners. ⠀
Don‘t ignore the help! When our limbic system of the brain takes over we can’t think clear and make proper decisions… that’s why the help of third party is preferable ( but not the “kitchen” psychological urgent help, please).
Don‘t take anyone advise when it comes to your personal and intimate relationship! ⠀
Its YOUR relationship! Only you know what is best for you and when we upset we shouldn’t make rush decisions…. ⠀
The specialist can show you different routes and solutions of the problem but the final decision and responsibility will be on you and your partner! ⠀
Before anything there is a guideline to check and start to work on your intimate relationships at any time!
8 kinds of INTIMACY
Most people think that sex its about intimacy… but its only one part of it….
There are other types of intimacy and you can check which one you have and important for your relationships!⠀
- AFFECTION
There are so many ways to show your affection on a daily bases, verbal , unverbal… ⠀ - SOCIAL intimacy- who we like to be around. ⠀
It doesn’t mean that we have to have sex with people we hang around with. - EMOTIONAL intimacy means to share our feelings and who we are but to be able to do so we have to feel safe with the person we wanna share this with. We need to trust people we wanna share and receive emotional intimacy!⠀
- PHYSICAL – doesn’t mean sex! Means doing things together! Traveling, cooking, shopping … ⠀
- SPIRITUAL – might be religious but also share the same believes, doing charity together, saving the world together, share political values. ⠀
- AESTHETIC – sharing something beautiful together, art, music
- INTELLECTUAL – “brain orgasms”.
- SEX! What is sex? Sharing your public and private parts.
If you use sex to be intimate it will be a dead end to your relationship!
Let’s be intimate and sex one of the way to express intimacy . ⠀